Who doesn’t want a better love life?
Usually, we think sexy stuff will do the trick. Hey, you may have even been surfing the web for such sexy tips and ideas for a better love life when you stumbled on this blog. Good news! I have two free ideas that will make a huge positive improvement- in your opposite sex’s love life.
1. In public, speak positively about one another.
Buster Posey is the catcher for the San Francisco Giants. I saw an interview on ESPN that he and his wife Kristen gave promoting a gala event they were doing for something that’s near and dear to their heart. They have a pediatric cancer research foundation, and ESPN was basically giving them some air time to talk to the nation about what they do and how they can help contribute for something that matters to them. The reason I reference this interview is because the way that they talked about one another with the interviewer. He had nothing but wonderful things to say about Kristen, and how supportive she was in the work that she did and how she came alongside and helped shape that vision with him. Even when the reporter at times during the interview would poke fun at Buster and she would say, “You know, he’s a really good husband; he’s pretty special and I’m grateful for him.” She just lifted him up. He lifted her up. I don’t think it was just an act for the camera; if you google the Poseys, you’ll find out more about their character and strong marriage.
In our conversations with other people, whether our spouse is present or not, we can improve our opposite sex’s love life if we will speak positively about the other.
2. In private, speak humbly to one another.
To be able to speak humbly to one another, we must submit to one another. Submit. Yeah, I said the “S” word. That’s a high calling, to think about living that word out in a relationship. Maybe your dads and moms weren’t the best; maybe your grandparents did a decent job, maybe you have work to do. At the heart of any relationship or marriage there’s a basic, cherishing, care woman wants for man to bring to her, and a basic respect that man is looking for woman to bring to him. Too often, partners snap at one another… or worse. And then they wonder why their partner or spouse isn’t interested in giving them what they want from the other.
For those who are married, you know marriage is not for the faint of heart, and I often say to people in my office, “Being single is hard at times, being married is hard at times, being divorced is off the charts. Take your pick.”
When it comes to your spouse or partner, if you intentionally speak positively and humbly, you’ll find that you’ve improved your opposite sex’s love life, as well as your own. You’ll benefit because your partner will be easier and more enjoyable to be around, so you both win. Sounds like the kind of love life you may be looking for.
Greg Griffin is a Pastoral Counselor in private practice in Marietta, GA. His specialty is relationship repair and rescue- helping partners, spouses, and parents and their adolescents. He’s also the author of Dungeon Times Survival Guide, and Vital Faith.
Other Stuff to Think About