the one word that kills closeness

Remember that old singsong saying about sticks and stones breaking bones? Yeah, I don’t buy it. I think it’s an outright lie. Words hurt. Often. They even hurt others when we weren’t trying. So class, today’s word is one of those “lazy” words we may say often without giving it a thought. It’s just one … Read more

how to be the affair that never happened

Who is the most likely candidate to become involved in an affair? I invite you to check out my latest blog entry for Marriage.com entitled “Three Be’s to Avoid Infidelity”. You might be surprised. There in the counseling session, Kim’s emotions ricocheted from hot anger to numb stupor to intense heartache as she poured out her … Read more

5 points to consider before you file for divorce in January

*If you are in a dangerous or abusive relationship, this post does not apply to you. Please seek professional support and help NOW. —————- I bet you’ve figured out already that this is not the warm fuzzy holiday blog post. There are lots of wonderful heart-warming stories and experiences shared this time of year. Cultures … Read more

six battle tactics to beat the holiday blues

As the calendar turned to November, Sue could feel the tension in her body rising, and her throat began to tighten. Looking at the calendar with its upcoming “command performance appearances” at her parents’ line up of holiday parties, her husband Jeff’s annual Thanksgiving blowout (or was it blow up?) family get together at the … Read more

three truths to help heal your hurting relationship

relationship repair and rescue

As Jeff turned his car into the neighborhood after another long dreary, commute, his already tense neck and shoulders drew even tighter as he envisioned walking in the door and having to deal with his wife, Sandy. “It will be another long night of hearing her litany of criticisms, all the things I’m not doing … Read more